Robert Greene posted a YouTube video called How To Find Your Perfect Partner. Here are notes I took:
They must be able to take criticism. Look below their personality (mask). You can't be in a relationship where they explode every time you criticize them. If they're hyper-sensitive, you can't tell them how you truly feel.
Could I talk to them about subjects that interest me?
Could they surprise me or have I heard everything in two days?
Do we share a similar sense of humour? (Really important to be able to laugh at the same things.)
Do they like animals? (Because I do.)
I don't know how to describe my humour. I laugh at fucked up dark stuff as well as lighthearted stuff and cute animals.
Thinking about doing online dating again but I need to be specific about the type of girl I'm looking for.
Looking for someone who knows how to enjoy spending time by herself and doesn't need anyone to have a good time.
Is that polarizing enough? I think it does capture the essence of someone I'm looking for. That kind of person should be non-needy because she knows how to be happy by herself. Someone like me, in that regard.
Today I will try and get back into a good routine. Hit all my targets. Read, flute, walk, work out, make a video. That's five things in a day. That's a lot.
I'm also thinking about doing online dating again.
I have a good feeling about this year. It's already been shaping up to be a good end of 2023 thanks to friends from Part-Time YouTuber Academy (PTYA) and me posting on YouTube every day and making a new friend, Eric. It's a new track in my songs of life.
I have a loyal fan base who watch me daily on YouTube. It's only a matter of time before I monetize and "succeed".
I want to not have to worry about money by earning lots of money myself. What a universal goal that almost everyone has.
I intend to earn like $5,000 a month after tax. First, my goal is $100 a month from YouTube AdSense. I have 1300/4000 watch hours so it'll take a while to be monetized but focus on the process not the outcome.
Let’s not consume artificial sexual content/porn. I keep hearing about how unhealthy it is and how it changes your brain. I just have to preoccupy myself with more important things like reading, stretching, working out, and watching/listening to content that educates me.
I read in an email that a man's wealth is better measured by his calendar than his bank account. Another reminder that I should use a calendar. I made an ideal calendar like Ali Abdaal said but I did not follow it today.
We become what we do. (From The Practice by Seth Godin)
A feeling of comparison always crops up when I meet my high school friends after a long time. Meeting them tomorrow. We live such different lives.
I should approach girls on my walk to and from the restaurant tomorrow. Remember that every approach is a win. Action-taking-momentum vs. excuse-making-momentum. Easier said than done.
My YouTube subscriber base is steadily growing.
December 6, 2023, I had 600 subs
December 16, 2023, I had 626 subs, and now
December 26, 2023, I have 657 subs. It just keeps climbing even though my views per video are often in the 20s in the first few days. Posting every day is paying off.
I changed my blog to the format I want (scroll of my posts from newest to oldest) thanks to Willow Ghost https://ghostdev.xyz/ who did it for free! That was really nice of her. She edited an existing theme called Attila and it works.
I think I’ll post these stream-of-consciousness writings, or at least their bullet points after writing them by hand first.
Today I was not efficient with my time again. It all comes down to using a calendar. Time blocking. I really don’t want to use one but it might be good for me.
On the issue of NoFap, my 13-day streak ended. I won’t pay attention to keeping a streak going anymore. I’m not super addicted to porn, watching it every day for a long time. I watch a few minutes once in a while to jack off then turn it off quickly. When I look at others who write about sex talking about masturbation, like the writer of Sperm Wars, there doesn’t seem to be any benefit for not ejaculating. When I try it for a couple weeks it’s not like it helped me in the way I talk to girls I’m attracted to. It did not help me in any way.
Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Christopher Nolan, Andrew Huberman, Lex Fridman, and Matt D’Avella have one thing in common; they all wear the same thing most days. I’m starting to do the same, mostly out of decision fatigue. Before I realized, I started reaching for the same clothes every day, one outfit for home, and one outfit for outside. White T-shirt with black sweatpants at home, black long-sleeved T-shirt and black jeans for outside, maybe with a black cardigan if it’s cold. There’s hardly any thought that goes into choosing my outfit.
Ever since I briefly lived in New York City in 2013, I realized that a lot of New Yorkers wear black and I started to copy that. Black doesn’t get dirty easily, looks sleek and dressier than other colours, is slimming, and is easy to mix and match. Actually, slimming is not a good thing for my skinny frame and it’s probably better if I wear brighter colours to not look so small, but now I like black too much to care about that. In fact, I just bought a couple of black untucked shirts to emulate Andrew Huberman. Perhaps I should be a bit dressier now that I’m in my mid-30s.
I’m going to have to do another Marie Kondo style wardrobe cleanout. I’ve done it a few years ago but it’s about time for another one. You take out all your clothes from everywhere and lay them on the ground. Then you start putting in the clothes you wear every day. If you haven’t worn them in years, it’s probably time to give them away. Thank your clothes and then let them go. *sigh… I’m not looking forward to it.
